Follower of Christ, do not make an idol of your relationship.
The love you have is a blessing from the hand of God; it is amazing and sublime. It’s sometimes hard to take our eyes off of such a wonderful and pure thing, beginning to look to it when trials in life appear. But you should not pin all your expectations on it; not because it may fail but because we must worship not the created thing but the Creator.
He is the author and the completer of the love you share. He is the goal and the purpose of your love. He planned your relationship and all its consequences at the beginning of the world. He is the one spoken of and represented when you faithfully live out the love He has given you. Do not forget Who you are being faithful to when you love faithfully and well: your spouse and God.
Malachi 2:14-15 says, “…the Lord is acting as a witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. Has not the Lord made them one? In flesh and spirit they are His. And why one? Because He was seeking godly offspring. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth.”
In this passage the prophet Malachi is speaking for God to the people. God is saying that He is purposely turning a deaf ear to the people’s requests, even though they are “flooding the altar with tears.”(v.13) The reason He is doing this is to indict them for being unfaithful to their wives!
God is standing up for the wives, standing like a wall between the men’s offerings and His blessings. Verse 14: “You ask ‘Why?’ It is because the Lord is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her…”
What an endearing portrait of God. It matters very much to Him, for your spouse’s sake, if you are faithless to the one He has given you.
But also, God is the one Being in all Creation who can justifiably be self-centered. It really is all about Him. God has made you one, has made your flesh and spirits unite, and God wants that union to produce more offspring for Him.
So we should by all means in awe of the unique union He has given us, but our eyes should be on the purpose of it. It is God’s purpose, and it ought to be our purpose as well.