34 years of parenting and roughly 27 years of homeschooling have taught me a few things. What do I wish somebody had told me?
You cannot do all the physical work alone. Teach your children to help you from the time they can walk. Teach them it’s normal to work. Teach them that families work together. Teach them that an orderly home is a happy priority. Be kind and patient, but persevere in your teaching.
They can’t help much, it’s true, and teaching them how is a lot of work. But you will grow your patience. And later on they will help a lot!
Any way you have to do it, get help. Get help. Get help. Get help. There is no shame in delegating. Get help.
You cannot do it all. If you decide to homeschool, please recognize that you are layering your tasks now; at the same time you are maintaining your home, you are teaching and administering education for each child. You literally have two things to do at the same time, all the time.
And each child in your homeschool is in a different grade (unless you have multiples) so you have the responsibilities to evaluate, plan, assign, teach, read aloud, check work, keep records, for each child in each grade.
The endless dishes still need to be done. Three meals and snacks still need to be planned, bought, prepared, served. And there are those dishes again. Appointments made and attended. Your home maintained and cleaned to a degree your family finds comfortable and functional. The very spaces in your home must be planned and furnished so that function and comfort are even possible.
The dishes are literally endless and they will take over your life.
It is impossible. Unless you’re an absolute genius at scheduling with a perfect grasp of the totality of your responsibilities, you will be overwhelmed and ultimately make yourself ill. (I did.)
You can’t do it alone. Get help. Delegate. Humble yourself and welcome anyone who offers help.
The effort we expend on trying to look poised while seriously struggling to keep all the plates spinning is almost funny. It’s a heavy and stupid burden.
Don’t carry it. Be honest with yourself and get help.
Thus endeth this lesson from my experience.