What If We All Have the Same Purpose?

We encourage one another to make a difference. It is a worthy goal–to make the world better, to leave something positive behind. We esteem the people who make their mark. Not to think ourselves shallow, we also value the quiet achievers–those behind the scenes who make a difference but don’t ask for glory. We call them more noble.

We value the loud and the silent achievers for what they’ve done. Showy or shy, our worth is based on our accomplishments.

Our elderly parents tell us that they would be ashamed to be on the receiving end of care:”I don’t want to be a burden.”

Have you seen “The Drop Box?” This is a documentary about South Korean Pastor Lee Jong-rak, who takes in abandoned babies. He has constructed a box, a pass-through, on the side of his ministry home in which people may leave infants which they cannot care for, no questions asked and anonymously. Without the box, many of these babies would be abandoned in the dark on the streets of Seoul, and many of those would be found dead by next morning. This happens.

The opening of the outside of the box trips an alarm, and Pastor Lee rises in the night to run to receive the babies. Most he has passed on to social services, but 18 have become part of his family. Almost all of those are disabled. His own biological son is a severely disabled young adult.

This is what Pastor Lee has to say about his disabled children:

“There are children who rely on the help of others to survive their entire lives. Many people think it is better for them to go to heaven as quickly as possible, because life on earth is too difficult for them. But God sent them to the Earth with disabilities. They’re not the unnecessary ones in the world. God sent them to Earth with a purpose.

Disabled children teach many people, change many people,and help people reflect upon themselves, which is why they are the educators of society. Even these deficient, feeble children, these really weak children, live with smiles on their faces.”

The Drop Box: Rescuing Hundreds of Babies in South Korea

But here is an equation which we find difficult to resolve.

In our achievement-oriented society, aren’t we all valued by our ability, our accomplishment, our visibility? If accomplishment equals value, then the handicapped, who cannot accomplish, are of little value.

That sounds bad. We don’t approve of our own equation. It does not reflect well on us. So we add to that evaluation this item: the disabled are relieved of accountability to achieve. They can’t accomplish so we won’t expect them to.

Does our equation make sense yet? What can we add to make it work?

Since achievement equals value, maybe the disabled have some sort of consolation purpose. We think things like: perhaps they’re here to make us appreciate that we don’t have to endure lives like theirs. They inspire us to be grateful for our well-being. Maybe their purpose is to smile in spite of their horrible and pointless existences. That must take some special grace that I don’t have (and don’t want.) They have value without achievement.

Maybe this kind of thinking soothes our secret horror at the thought of living like they do but it may also be a way of soothing our consciences while we find some way to value the value-less.

But that doesn’t work either. Our generosity is toward ourselves; it does nothing for the recipients of our pity. I am afraid that our concern is with easing our own feelings rather than with helping the person who needs our help.

But back to the equation.

If the disabled are of value even though they cannot accomplish, how can I be of value because I achieve? If my abled-value standard is true, how can disabled people be of value?

If the able aren’t valued by the disabled’s virtues, and if the disabled cannot be valued by our achievements…

We are using two scales. Two equations are necessary: one for the able, another for the disabled. If so, don’t we assume that there are two scales for two different classes of human beings?

That’s rarely a good idea. Eugenicists usually start here.

In God’s economy, there must be only one set of balances. There must be an objective value measure to which all human persons have access. What if we are all valued in the same way? Must we not all ultimately be weighed on the same scale?

The crippled child cannot be weighed on the same scale as the highly accomplished and physically unchallenged adult, and come out equal.

It may be better to weigh the able on the same scale as the disabled. What if— in God’s measure, which is after all the true reality—we are valued the way they are? What if the able are judged by the disabled standard?

What do we have in common?

If we have the same purpose they do, then no one’s true value is accounted because of his accomplishments. Then value must be intrinsic and unearned. It must mean that all our purposes must be attainable without the aid of our accomplishments. That we all have value, regardless of our abilities.

What if we are valuable even though we have nothing to give? What if our value has nothing whatever to do with what we can do?

What if we are greatest when we have nothing to give?

We are all put on Earth needy, dependent, and disabled. Do babies have lesser value? Some people remain dependent. What can our common purpose be?

What if everyone‘s purpose is to be the object of the care of other people? What if we are at our greatest when we are receiving? What if you– no matter how capable you are— are here so that others may care for you?

Let’s be honest. In practice, most of us would find that humiliating. But what if your whole purpose is to become humble?

People were bringing the little children to him to place His hands on them. But the disciples rebuked those who brought them. When Jesus saw this, He was indignant and told them, “Let the little children come to Me, and do not hinder them! For the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. Truly I tell you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.”…

We struggle against being dependent; dependence makes us insignificant. Accepting help is humbling. We want to be the giver, the person who makes a difference.

Almighty God is glorified when one person cares selflessly for another person, and when we spend ourselves on another who is needy.

Turn that picture around. We overlook this perspective: God is glorified and honored when we accept care with humility and gratefulness, and receive love which we cannot pay back in any tangible manner

Pride is the root of all sin and God values humility. Can it be that what God desires most for us is to be in relationship, and to engender love from others? Are we here to inspire grace in others?

Let us remember the most fundamental equation in God’s Word. The most significant thing we can ever do is to accept God’s salvation when we have nothing to give in return, no way to earn it and no way to ever pay it back. The greatest thing we can ever do is to submit to rescue while acknowledging our utter helplessness, and to thank, love and acknowledge our Rescuer. This is our eternal condition.

Psalm 34:

Taste and see that the Lord is good;
blessed is the one who takes refuge in him…
The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them;
he delivers them from all their troubles.
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted
and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

A universe where Pastor Lee’s adult son– unable to see, talk, or walk, nor even to comprehend– and I, physically and mentally able to accomplish much–are on truly equal ground, of fully equal yet inestimable value, makes sense. The equation works.

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Not Welcome at the Cool Kids’ Table

People unfollowed me.

Friends dont talk to me.

Relatives ignore me.

Snide comments. “Make sure they do the count right.”

A Christian brother tells me I am being oppressive, a broken record, demands that I change the subject, make FB a positive place. It’s hate. He begged to be blocked. Blocked.

Our decades-old friend became personal and accusatory. Unfriended.

Progressives, it seems, all feminists and of the resistance…cannot tolerate a female expressing her views because those thoughts are out of step. “Get over it!” Go along. Let’s put away division and unify. Don’t kill our buzz.

The proud resistance cannot tolerate a woman expressing opinions out of step with the majority. Cannot abide non conformity. They shun someone speaking unpopular thoughts. Ironic, no?

True “Resistors?” They would approve of someone voicing unpopular opinions. They would support the out of step one. They would cheer real resistance.

Celebrity Preacher Expresses Contempt for Trump Voters and Justifies Voting Pro-Death as Morally Superior to Voting for an Icky Man

If we cannot even resolve to protect the lives of the most innocent and vulnerable of human beings who bear God’s image, all our do-gooding is farce.

We do the latter and leave the former undone. This position is morally bankrupt. The protection of innocent life is fundamental to a moral ethic. To be dismissive of the priority of protecting life is to make your whole ethic nonsensical.

To be concerned that some children suffer poverty or disenfranchisement while being less concerned that millions of children are killed is moral derangement. No rights or privileges can be granted if the children are dead.

It is to support a two-tier ethic in which it is immoral to deny a first world living standard to some children but mildly unfortunate to deny life to other children.

These thoughts do not derive from Scripture. An ethic which suggests there are some valuable and others not does not come from God’s Word. One that tells us “Do not speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves” has nothing to say.



I have devoted a lion’s share of this blog to the issue of life. To express the truth on the negative side of that coin, this blog has been about death. I have written about abortion.

Here is a representative list of my thoughts so far.

Mary Had a Baby:


One Hundred Years of Death:


Life Debate ABC’s:


Do We Still Recognize Exploitation?:




Why Defend Planned Parenthood?:


What If:


Being Bullies:


I Am Officially Against Genocide:


In the Mirror:


We Kill the Weak:


The Wrong Side of History and Cultural Change:


The Worst Thing Women Believe:


Why Do You Champion Genocide?:


What’s Wrong with Genocide?:


At Least I Have a Napkin to Go With Those Plastic Spoons:


War on Children:


Irony Gold:


Three Kinds of Tragedy:


Pro-Choice is not the Virtuous Choice:


Help for Africa:


…”but some everyones are more equal than others.”:


Can We Stop an International Roe v. Wade?:


We Are a Plague; Or At Least You Are:


Quit Insulting Women:


Revelations 11:10

I am reminded of this future event, the present “mood.”

It’s not the demise of God’s prophets, not even close. But it is the merrymaking over the destruction of someone, so they think, and of all who they attach to him.

Of course–it’s all about peace, love and understanding. Free at last. The Wicked Witch is dead, ding dong.

It’s the merrymaking of hate. And I can feel it directed toward me.

What We Are Left With

When we jettison those old timey manners and morals because all the cool people don’t like them anymore, we have only a passing whiff of ginned-up good feelings to guide our moral behavior. As you see:

I found this fuzzy pink thing in my Instagram feed. Its author was serious.

 Literally any random ancient moral code is better than this. This is shallow, reductive, and simplistic. How does one go through even a day living by this code without meeting an insurmountable challenge?

After just seconds one has to ask: What is the good? How do I choose which response is good?

Why should I be good? Why should I do good?

Why should I be good when it doesn’t benefit me? When it hurts me?

What will tell me which action is good? Can I trust my own gut? 

What is good, anyway? How do we define “good?”

We are surrounded by voices, pressing in to our thoughts, demanding our allegiance to their rightness. There is no lack of advice. But does any of it have authority? Plenty of the available advice is bad.

Thank God, there is an objective moral guide. How do I know? Our inner conscience testifies to it. Your conscience tells you to choose actions that you don’t like. Your inner voice would have you do the uncomfortable thing, the scary thing, the selfless thing. That selfless thing is according to a code of ethics which is outside of you or me, and in particular outside of our feelings.

There is a Moral Law, and there is a Moral Lawgiver.

Moral decisions are  much too complex for such a code as DO GOOD — BE GOOD. Because of that innate regard we have for the objective law, we often know what is good. But more often, there are competing interests to consider.  Most moral choices are not presented in a vacuum. How do we choose one over another? We have to compare our options to something objective before we can know what is the good.

This moral code, DO GOOD—BE GOOD, reductive and outrageously simple minded, leads to injustice and inhumanity. Why? Because in dismissal of that objective, transcendent moral law, we throw out anything which tells us what is right and wrong. We have ejected our reason. We are left with our feelings

Our feelings are undependable. They lead us wrong. And the bedrock, the absolute bottom layer of the foundation of our psyches, is how we feel about ourselves.

We love ourselves, we like ourselves, we feel good about ourselves. We can’t stand feeling bad about ourselves. We believe we do good and right things, always. Because we are us and we’re good. We’re not like those other people who are bad. We haz the vituez.

In any given moral situation, I am going to choose the option that puts me in the best light in my own mind. If we can be persuaded to believe that one side of a political issue is angelic, and the other is straight from The Devil Himself, we are sold out. Rioters want me to confirm their moral superiority to police? If I’m not objective, my need to be a morally superior person tells me what to do. No contest.

We are more committed to feeling right than to doing right.

Millions of women believe they are righteous defenders of civil human rights because they march, vote, condemn and hate in the service of the legal right to kill unborn human children. Done. And I am evil if I disagree.

Be good—do good.


Where has civility gone?

We’ve reached a level of incivility where we consider ourselves civil and virtuous if we only refrain from effing a person off.

As I move away from a recent social media conversation, I reflect on the interchange and find it sadder and sadder. Please understand that I am a person who nearly always feels horrible about my part in a disagreeing conversation. I feel exposed and ashamed.

Not so with this conversation. I am more and more disappointed as I think about the treatment I received. There were no curses and no outright personal attacks. Yet I seem to feel a knife in my back.

Clearly the person I was speaking to thought she was above the nasty fray, and quite quite absolutely correct. Her opinions were the literary and thoughtful thinking person’s thoughts. Undeniable by all reasonable people.

I made my case politely, even pressed a bit, because it’s an important point.

The reply: We will have to agree to disagree.

Meaning: Because nuh-uh. I recognize your reasons and I dismiss them.

I don’t expect to be persuasive. I don’t expect agreement with my argument. But I do expect discussion. Listening. Considering. Respecting. Countering. Back and forth.

What I received: condescension, dismissal, veiled put downs.

At the end, I was thanked for keeping it civil. And I want to ask: is there a reason why you expected me to be uncivil? Aren’t you congratulating me for refraining from acting like one of those _________?

Do you see how the tribes are conceived? She was in the US and I was revealed to be one of THEM.

Once I had been identified, I must be dismissed, but not before I could be put in my place. Notice, I was not expected to recognize that I was being insulted. That recognition was for her and her tribesmen. It is important to maintain the social hierarchy.

Sad indeed.

Politics Aside…

I have lived with two people who had dementia. One had Alzheimer’s and the other dementia with zero short-term memory. I know it when I see it.

My mother could present very well to a visitor. She had a vivacious personality and a sharp wit, along with a lotta atty-tood. Her doctor thought she was amazing and lucid. He didn’t stay long enough to have to repeat the conversation twenty times consecutively.

Other times, there were sundowning, agitation, insomnia. The sundowning stopped abiding by the clock when she no longer recognized day from night.

And there were days at a time when she drifted in and out of a half-sleep, no longer differentiating dreams from reality.

To the end, if you engaged her, she remained unusually articulate. Though she could not remember anything but who her kids were.

She was in her mid 90’s when this happened to her.

I’m telling you Joe Biden is much less focused, much less articulate than she was.

And we must acknowledge that the little we are seeing is his best. We are seeing the best, most functional, most lucid parts of his days. To vote for him is to participate in elder abuse.

As a Christian, How Can I Support Trump?

I’ll make this a nutshell kind of answer to all the millenial hand-wringers who stress about how Christians can supprt the uncooler boogieman in the race. How can I be OK with voting for the uncool tweeter?

If you can assent to voting for a ticket whose platform is legal and unrestricted abortion up until birth, you have a far greater ability to rationalize away evil things than I.

Let People Speak for Themselves

This woman is articulate. She doesn’t need your help to be understood.

Black people do not need our white activism to matter. Why don’t you just get out of the way and let them speak, protest, demonstrate?

The answer is obvious and embarrassing. It’s two fold. First, because you shamelessly use their newfound relevance to make yourself relevant. You use them to virtue signal. Me too! Look at me!

Second, and more awful, you really think that they need you. You really think they can’t achieve without your white help.

You racists.